"The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart." - Elisabeth Foley
Since a true friend can also be your partner and in many instances is, this quote is wonderful for a loving, nurturing relationship. I feel that a relationship lasts longer with open communication and the ability to grow separately without growing apart. A true relationship whether with your friend or partner should allow for each individual's growth. If that growth leads to growing apart, then were you ever a true friend to that person? I have some friends that I haven't seen in years, however when we have the opportunity to get together, it feels as if we never grew apart or we never said goodbye. I know these are rare instances but they do occur.
When two people communicate rarely is the topic of sex discussed. The upcoming February issue of OUT changes that with three pages of 115 questions posted and answered by 1000 individuals (92% Gay, 7% bisexual and 1% questioning). You may be saying is he going to discuss sex. The answer is yes. Why? Because no one does, at least not the doctors I know. It is so important for you to discuss your sexual practices with your doctor. Not only your sexual practices, but the do and don'ts, your fears, drinking during sex, other habits during sex and just plain sex.
The oddest response to me were to the question "strangest place you've ever had sex"
This question unlike many of the others is not gay oriented. I do not care how old you are, or what your sexual orientation. You can answer some of the questions. It might even trigger some old desires that you thought were gone. The happiest couples I have seen whether straight or gay have been in those that have some type of intimacy. I do not expect my 83 year old couple from NJ to be having sex. I do expect that some type of intimacy must exist. The next question is the definition of sex. The definition of having sex has changed since I was a teenager. I am sure the Presidency of President Clinton changed the term "sex" forever. I wonder if 8th grade history classes discuss this topic.
SOME STATISTICS:
Some of the percentages are surprising. For example on 'cheating' - 68% have been cheated on; 51% have cheated and 60% have had sex with someone who was in a straight relationship at that time.
Alcohol is part of society and relationships. Sometimes drinking is the bond that holds a relationship together. Not everyone drinks.
24% drink most or every time they have sex, while 23% never do
The Internet has not helped with communication between couples in a relationship as 82% look at free porn sites, while 18% pay for it.
I was delighted to read that across all age groups (18-25; 26-35; 36-45; 46-55; 55-65)
the average percentage of condom use always/mostly is about 75%. It could be better. I would have liked to see a percentage for those from 14-18.
The percentage for 'coming out' is interesting by geographic areas within the United States.
Where is the strangest place you have had sex? You can answer this question. I do not care how old you are or your sexual lifestyle. I do not know if some of these answers are real or there for the 'shock factor'. I did expect to read in an airplane bathroom, or in a car. I didn't expect to read the following:
1. Between moving subway cars
2. The ruins of Pompeii
3. Home Depot Bathroom
4. On a Field with cows
5. A gutter
I am sure the magazines Cosmopolitan, G Q or perhaps the Ladies Home Journal have published some statistics.
It is a laid back Saturday...
Until tomorrow...
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